How To Over Come Self Defeating Thoughts

How To Over Come Self Defeating Thoughts

Writer By Leon Ho

Chibuzor, it doesn't matter what you do, they're always there.

Trying to make you think negatively about yourself.

Telling you that you won't achieve what you want in life.

It doesn't matter what you do, those negative thoughts inside your head just don't go away.

You struggle with them every day.

As soon as you wake up, the inner battle starts.

And it doesn't stop until you go to sleep.

It doesn't matter what you're doing, they come saying things like...

"Why did you leave your house dressed like that?"

"That's a bad idea. Don't even bother saying it."

"If you say what you think out loud, they'll laugh at you"

They take your attention. 

They agitate your emotions.

They keep you distracted, and stop you from giving your full potential.

Maybe you've tried everything to eradicate them.

And still, nothing.

They just keep on bothering you, taking all your motivation away.

Making you feel worthless and stressed.

But that's not all.

This constant battle within yourself is starting to affect your relationships with other people.

All that struggle keeps you very sensitive and defensive.

You're always very tense.

You feel confused and upset all day long.

It's hard to even pay attention to what someone's telling you because these negative thoughts take away all of your attention.

You start taking things personally, and even the slightest comment makes you over-react

Have you ever been in that position?

I know I have.

It's not a good place to be.

But I was also able to get out of this situation.

It's not impossible.

How?

You need to name them and let them go.

See, you can't argue out negative thoughts from your mind.

When you do that, you give them more importance than what they actually have.

And because they're important, they stick around.

Instead, just name the negative thoughts out and let them go.

How do you do that?

First, identify the negative thought patterns that come your way.

When the "If you say that out loud, they'll laugh at you" thoughts show up, you mentally call it out.

"Ok, the "I'm a joke" pattern is here".

Then, you forget about it and don't pay attention to it anymore.

Why does this work so well?

Because when you call out your negative thoughts you put the smartest part of your brain, the frontal cortex, to work.

When you do that, you get a greater perspective from the situation.

And when those negative thoughts can connect with neither your attention nor your emotions, guess what happens?

They go away.

Honestly, my life changed when I started doing this.

I got a sense of calm and inner peace I never had before.

I started navigating through life peacefully.

Whenever those negatives thoughts came my way, they immediately ran away.

An inner peace took control, and those negative patterns of thought stopped being a problem.

I stopped being so stressed around life anymore.

Now, I was always at peace.

It was amazing.

I just wish everyone who reads this gets that same feeling.