You Should'nt Feel Obligated, "Why?"

Carthage Buckley Hi Friends ππ±π Scott was a client of mine from California. He had come to me for time management coaching. He was ambitious, intelligent and driven; but he was incredibly disorganised. As hard as he worked, he regularly felt like he was getting nowhere. At the beginning of one of our first sessions, I noticed that he was in a bad mood. When I asked why, he told me that he had just gotten back from a friendβs birthday party in New York. He hadnβt really wanted to go and, he hadnβt enjoyed himself. So, I asked why he had gone and received the following reply: βWe were good friends who grew up together. We were always close as kids and it is nice to see him. I felt obliged to go.β When I pushed him further, Scott told me the following: His friend would be home in California at least once a year but they would rarely meet up during this time. They rarely (every 6 months or so) exchanged calls, texts, emails or any other communication. While he lik...