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How To Over Come Self Defeating Thoughts Writer By Leon Ho Chibuzor, it doesn't matter what you do, they're always there. Trying to make you think negatively about yourself. Telling you that you won't achieve what you want in life. It doesn't matter what you do, those negative thoughts inside your head just don't go away. You struggle with them every day. As soon as you wake up, the inner battle starts. And it doesn't stop until you go to sleep. It doesn't matter what you're doing, they come saying things like... "Why did you leave your house dressed like that?" "That's a bad idea. Don't even bother saying it." "If you say what you think out loud, they'll laugh at you" They take your attention.  They agitate your emotions. They keep you distracted, and stop you from giving your full potential. Maybe you've tried everything to eradicate them. And still, nothing. They just keep on bothering you, taking all your

  From A Member, She Needs Your Advice Writer By Omolara Olukoya Am a married woman with 2 kids... been with my husband this is the 9th year now...I loved my husband with my all but I feel he has pushed me further away from him..last year a baby was born out of wedlock...being one who believes in my marriage , he  apologized and told me he can't abandon the kid..he will support his kid...but the mother of the kid says otherwise ...she takes herself as his second wife...( A major turnoff to me) I have a permanent job , I contribute fairly to upkeep of the family but since his outside issues I now feel am busy helping him take care of his family so he can be able to take care of another woman like me out there..which is not sitting well with me...he lies several times about his whereabouts...the kid is innocent , deserve to have both parents in its life....I understand but this hide and sick is getting to me...how best can one work around such a situation?

  Teach your daughter's to Roar  Writer By Savis Nelson Teach your daughter's to Roar In this generation a 17year old girl has experienced 5 heartbreaks But she has not experience the anointing of God that breaks yokes A 20years old girl has done series of abortion but she has not told one soul about the salvation of Jesus Even a 4year old girl can sing an ungodly song perfectly but cannot recite even one scripture. It's time to teach our generation of ladies coming how to roar on their knees and not on their bed . It's time to reveal to them that they are not side chick's to be crowned on the bed of fornications,but they are lioness and to be roar in the secret place  We should make them know that slay queens are not known by what they wear but what they carry inside  Happening babes are not those that know the latest hotels,clubs, clothes shoes,but are those who make things happen on earth and in heaven  The daughters of our generation will not know that alcohol c

  Writer By Daniel Okafor, Founder Phronesis Readers Club "THINKING THROUGH" Few days after the new year, I stumbled across my old jotter where I wrote down different plans & goals for the year 2020. A sense of fulfilment ran through my spine when I discovered I was able to achieve over 70% of my goals despite the lockdown.  But here is the shocking aspect;  Last year, I Seldom revisited my written goals, I did that only at countable and rare occasions. How then was I able to bring my goals into fruition without necessarily revisiting them often? Here is an answer to that, please read closely; "The process of making a plan is more critical than the plan itself" It's a process I would refer to as "THINKING THROUGH" The miracle is not just in writing down your plans, but it's in the vision your mind captures while you set your goals. Your written goals becomes your default reasoning. According to Brian Tracy; "Thinking through what you must

  DIVORCE : CAUSES, EFFECT ON CHILDREN AND WAYOUT  Writer By Christianah Alao The case of divorce/separation among couples in this contemporary modern day is quite disheartening. When divorce sets in, who is affected most . The parents or the innocent children?.  There are alot of happenings in many homes which causes disagreement and when such is not settle with God's guidance, it aggravated to separation between the couples. We won't be surprised that this little issues that occurred in various homes are the things that can be clear off when there is mutual understanding among couples but it is saddening that some of this issues are not paid attention to at the onset until it leads to bigger issue that will be difficult to resolve at a later time This is why in marriage, forgiveness is very paramount. Don't marry someone you won't be able to forgive when little disagreement brew up! This is one of the things you should look out for in your spouse before saying "

  How To Take Control Of Your Time Back Writer By Leon Ho I love plans. After all, who doesn't? It's just an amazing feeling when everything goes like you thought it would. For every project, I pay attention to every single detail. I try to prevent anything that could potentially go wrong. Then, when I believe everything will go smoothly and on schedule... Boom. Something unexpected happens that I didn't think of. Truth is, there's always something that goes wrong with my plans. It doesn't matter how much time I spend planning. There's always this little thing that makes it fall apart. Back in the day, my reactions to these types of situations were not ideal, to say the least. I mean, they really affected me. I would panic. I would get desperate. I would let all my insecurities and fears take control of me, and stopped being rational. In the meantime, my problems would just get bigger and bigger. The more I panicked, the worse the situation would get. It was cha

  There's one reason why I see most people go after what they want. What If? Because Of The "What If?" Writer By Leon Ho Whenever it's time to make a life-changing decision, they start wondering... What if something goes wrong? What if nothing goes according to plan? What if nobody likes my project, presentation, idea, etc? They're just too afraid of what might happen. Usually, that stress conquer them. So, they do nothing. They decide to settle with what they have instead of facing the possible (and very unlikely) consequences of moving forward. They let their fears stop them from going after what they want in life. By doing that, they kill all the dreams and aspirations. What these people later find is that they end up living with a burden over their shoulders. A burden of regret. You regret you didn't have the courage. That you didn't take a step forward and faced your fears. You regret you were not courageous enough. Now, there's nothing you can do