HOW TO WIN AN ARGUMENT WITHOUT CREATING AN ENEMY!

 

HOW TO WIN AN ARGUMENT WITHOUT CREATING AN ENEMY!

Written By Wisdom Alezander And Also

Personal Development Coach.

Couple of days ago, I was there seated in an interactive class where issues bordering on the appraisal of moral values  were being discussed.

The lecturer was a master communicator. He knows the nitty-gritty of what he was talking about, so that makes his teaching even more instructive, practical and very penetrating too!

He drew our attention to the best possible ways we can easily win an argument constructively and technically. This he said, however, was to enable us maintain peace and to foster a friendly environment anywhere we find ourselves.

Now, if you have a friend who seems to argue alot even when they seem to be wrong somehow. This is what this lecturer advises you to do:

1. Be patient with the fellow: By being patient, it simply means you're open to what the fellow have to say. In other words, you're trying to make him or her feel important and respected.

2. Listen to the fellow: maintain eye contact as you listen to the fellow. Try to see things from his or her perspective.

3. Ask the fellow factual questions: This is the area where you have to prove your own case wisely. Your questions should be based on relevant facts in connection to what the fellow has said before. 

4. Seek a redress or an address with the fellow: if the fellow has credible fact, then seek a redress and make it a win-win situation. But if he or she doesn't, then address the issue using the fact you have at your disposal. But do this politely and respectfully too!

I believe if we can adopt this simple principles, then we shouldn't have problems creating more enemies instead of friends!

W.A

Personal development coach.