WHY PEOPLE USUALLY LOSE FEELING FOR SOMEONE THEY WERE ONCE MADLY IN LOVE WITH

 Writer By Janet Abenga

WHY PEOPLE USUALLY LOSE FEELING FOR SOMEONE THEY WERE ONCE MADLY IN LOVE WITH

Human feelings is uncertain and it can change at any moment, reasons why we shouldn't always allow our feelings determine all our actions and decisions.

The feeling of loving someone is so sensitive and should be cherished because it can easily swing or sway. This is the reason why a friend yesterday can be an enemy tomorrow. Lovers can become sworn enemies.

Many are times you must have found yourself feeling loved or loving someone, but with time or an event happened and you discover the love is fast fading.

REASONS WHY LOVE FADES 

 INFATUATION

Infatuation; which is an intense, but short lived feeling of love is usually one of the reason why people usually lost feeling for the person they once loved. 

This type of feeling is common with young and upcoming lovers. It is sometimes sensual and tend to fade away with time.

Time is the ultimate distinguishing factor between true love and infatuation.

True love is real and stands the test of time, whereas, infatuation doesn't stand the test of time.

Little wonder, psychologist says for you to say you're in love, the feeling must  have lasted more than 4 months. If it fades, then it is not love.

 DISRESPECT

No man or woman can stand a disrespectful partner. Respect is what makes love to glow. 

It serves as a vehicle to convey your love.

You can't claim to love someone and disrespect, disdain or look down on them.

Many love life has gone sour because there is no respect and dignity in the relationship.

No matter how fervent your love maybe for someone, if you're continually disrespected, the love will grow cold.

Everyone deserves to be respected, if you know you can't respect someone, please don't start a relationship with that person.

LIES and PRETENSE

Many love relationship were built on lies and pretense, the love tends to depreciate when the other person start discovering the lies or the pretense in the life of the other person.

Lies and pretense is a big turn off in any relationship. 

You need to be real in your dealing with the person you love.

No need for lies and pretense, if he/she loves you, he/she will stay no matter how bad what you're trying to cover maybe.

Living a fake life is like a pin that usually puncture a love balloon. 

Don't allow lies and pretense puncture the love someone has for you.

 LACK of COMMUNICATION

Communication is the lubricant and soul of every relationship. Without communication there is no relationship and love.

Once communication is lost, love is lost.

Love requires constant communication and reassurance. 

Reason why love dies when there is a breach in communication.

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 PRIDE and ARROGANCE

Pride and arrogance are also factors that depreciate love. 

Even in love, it is difficult to tolerate and accommodate a proud and arrogant fellow.

A proud person will always remind you of the minutest of things done for you, while an arrogant person will always want to feel superior and make you look inferior.

You hear things like 'I made you who you are', without me you're nothing.

Pride and arrogance usually deflate love and if it continue unchecked, it totally deflate the love until it is lost.

Pride is a cancer and cankerworm to any thriving relationship, so avoid it.

NAGGING and COMPARISON

Comparison is a thief of joy, especially when you compare two parallel entity.

Many lovely relationship has gone sour, just because the players were fond of comparing each other.

You hear things like, he/she is not like or as good as my ex, if your ex is that good, why did you part ways? 

This is one of the reasons why people need to avoid unnecessary relationship, because having too many ex will now give you a wide range of comparison when you finally finds the right one.

Comparison will result to nagging, which will eventually steal the love you once shared together.

 Not Reciprocating Love and Care.

Everyone desires to be loved, pamper and cared for. If you leave love, and care to a particular person in a relationship without reciprocating same, with time the person will grow weary and the love and care will fade away.

No matter how little and difficult things may be for you, learn to reciprocate every kind gesture your partner shows to you. 

This helps to keep the light of love you share burning.

TIME

Time is the ultimate test of love. Time and chance will determine if love flourishes or fade.